While manners simply never go out of fashion, social situations change with each generation. You should still never talk while you're eating, or lick your knife, and always say please and thank you, but 'Mobile Manners' are something that my generation of parenting is having to enforce while never having had to adhere to it as a child, particularly as a teenager.
Reading texts while Mom is talking is the new blank expression. Furiously typing texts while Dad is disciplining is the new eye rolling. So how do we teach our kids what is socially acceptable in the world of smartphones, when we are treading through these landmines ourselves?
Until the passing of Texting and Driving legislation, many parents could be found talking, texting and being generally distracted, something that our young kids observed. I myself used to refer to traffic lights as BlackBerry Pitstops.
A recent PC mobile poll conducted by Leger Marketing shows that we are still not modeling perfect behavior in front of our children, even though smartphones have been around for quite a while, and common sense and legislation tell us to change. 22% of us have typed or texted while driving, 30% of us text or talk while walking, and 37% of us have used our phones in the bathroom.
While using a phone in the bathroom isn't technically dangerous, it is of course extremely unhygienic and more than a little off-putting. Texting and driving is extremely dangerous, and doing it in front of your teenager doubles the danger, as they see our behavior as normal and potentially mimic it when they start driving. As much as they don't want to be like us, as we didn't want to be like our boring old parents, they develop their values and norms by watching us.
Take advantage of having a teen in the car to make them your Designated Texter or Talker if you need to communicate while on the road. But don't let them take it into the bathroom at the gas station?
That's just good manners.
Kathy Buckworth is the author of six books, including 'The BlackBerry Diaries: Adventures in Modern Motherhood'. Follow Kathy on Twitter@KathyBuckworth